Separated

You probably noticed the lack of posts during the past 3 months. There have been many changes in my life and the biggest is that Shelley and I are now separated as of March. I will not go into the marriage breakdown as this is not the appropriate venue, but I will now talk about how I am adjusting.

I bounced around a few hotels while looking for a new condo. The Subang Dorsett was great and I got to know the staff on a first name basis but unfortunately could not afford to stay there more than a week. I then moved to a low cost hotel that I refer to as the Cockroach Hotel. It was never boring because killing cockroaches is quite challenging. The little buggers are fast :-)

Eventually, I decided that I needed to rent a condo and enlisted our (my) previous real estate lawyer Elissa. I was looking for someplace inexpensive and Elissa dutifully showed me around some places where she knew I would never live. I realized she was humouring me and I evenually looked at a new building, Saujana Residency, and rented a 2 bedroom unit for $2,700 ringgit per month which compares favourably to the previous rental of $2,500 in Boulevard Condos where Shelley is still living.

However, as always, I had to put down 3.5 months deposit t move in, so I am broke for a month. It is back to peanut butter and toast! The new building is with a 2 minute walk to 2 shopping centres with grocery stores. This is much more convenient than Boulevard where a taxi was always required. It is also a new building with a much better fitness centre and huge swimming pool.

I have a view of the park and noticed there is a wild dog living there. He is almost always there and almost always alone. I have begun to identify myself with this dog as my life is very much like the dogs. I am pretty much always alone and can do whatever I want, whenever I want. That is good, but life is lonely at times. I try to stay as busy as possible as it keeps me happier, especially as the divorce proceedings are starting to begin.

So you are probably wondering; am I happier now that I am separated. The answer to that is yes/no and it depends. You will have to read this blog over the coming year to get the answer to that question. I will ask you not to pass judgement on me until that time.

TTYL,

Jim